The ideas in my simple seven-step plan can be used at any stage of your life and in any kind of relationship. However, SCORE is best for those of you who are serious about having the real deal with a great lady. I mean, if you’re more interested in a happy ending than happily ever after then why bother reading a book? Why not just swing by the Horny Co-ed chat room? It would ultimately be less work than dating an actual hot woman. Seriously, I have nothing against trying to get you laid; however, I’m also interested in helping you become the man that a woman like my hot friends and I would actually go out with—more than once.
SCORE strives to help you get a great girl to like the real you. It is not the same old BS about how to trick a woman into liking the player you. In fact those books are such nonsense that any Hot Chick worth her push-up bra can see your pathetic, poser ass getting in a cab downtown. I mean really, do you want to just play the game... or actually win the girl?
I assume we’re on the same page here. You’re looking to not only meet your ultimate fantasy woman, but also get her to like you, want her to have sex with you, and keep her coming back for more. If so, let’s get started!
I have a simple theory. It takes three basic tools to attain success: Desire, Knowledge, and Action. Whether it is getting six-pack abs, closing a business deal, or landing a hot girl, Desire + Knowledge + Action = Success.
The good news is if you’re reading this right now you’re already on the right track. You have the desire to make a change for the better in your love life and you are open, ready, and willing.
I have my cheerleader outfit on and I’m giving you a big “Woo Hoo!”
However, do you really know what you want? Who is your Dream Girl? What is your ultimate desire? As in all aspects of life, you must set a goal if you are going to attain it. You have to know what you’re shooting for in order to score. I find that to discover what it is I truly desire, I need to write it down. Yes, literally write it down—as in make a list.
Now, you may have a special someone in mind like Suzy in advertising who struts by your office in that short skirt and tight sweater just screaming “Dream Girl!” However, most of you haven’t met your perfect girl yet. It’s my job to help you find her. But, in order to do so, we must know who she is.
I want you to make a list of all the qualities your perfect Dream Girl possesses. Start your list with:
“I want a woman...” (“I want a woman who’s hot” is not good enough.)
“I want a woman with a college degree, who’s under five feet six, likes hockey, doesn’t want kids, has a heart-shaped ass, loves dogs, listens to country music, is hot-tempered, likes to be spanked, cooks Italian food, enjoys mountain biking, and gives great blow jobs.”
Now we are getting somewhere. You need to get really specific with your list. Hone in on your ideal. The more details you can name about your Dream Girl the better. If you have a real life girl in mind, write down the attributes about her that you do know and like:
“Red hair, blue eyes, sweet smile, freckles, perky tits...”
Then, because I assume you don’t know her all that well, add to the list what you want her to be like in more specific detail:
“I want a woman who likes sci-fi movies.” “I want a woman who enjoys a good pinot noir.” “I want a woman I can take home to Mom.” “I want a woman who lets me watch football with the boys.” “I want a woman who is ticklish.” “I want a woman who is too old to be into Justin Beiber.” “I want a woman who’s old enough to appreciate Bob Dylan.” “I want a woman who wears stilettos in bed.” “I want a woman who won’t drive me crazy.” You get the picture.
Now, the magic number here is one hundred. I want you to write down one hundred traits your Dream Girl possesses. Be honest. Be creative. Be idealistic. I’m serious. This is not a mental list. WRITE IT DOWN. Go get a notepad and a pen.
If you get stuck, don’t think—just write. Judging your list as you go does not help you. Nothing is too silly or too much to ask. This is your big chance to create your perfect woman. Go for it! You can’t skip this step because you think it’s stupid. If you think it’s stupid, you need to do it even more. Remember: be careful what you wish for because, with the help of this book, you will most likely get it. When you reach one hundred you may read on. Until then, keep writing.
OK. This is me in my cheerleading outfit giving you a big “Yea You!”
You’ve got a goal now. You know who she is, what kind of girl you desire. The Hot Chick hunt is well underway. You have a real shot now because you’ve put it out in the Universe. Now, take the list and stash it somewhere private. Don’t break it out and study it. Don’t edit or second-guess your list just yet. Simply leave it alone. Over the course of the book, I will ask you to revisit it. But for now—let it be.
Step 1: KNOW YOU’VE GOT A SHOT
Madonna: “Hello Garth.” Garth: “Oh my God—it’s Madonna! I’m not worthy! I’m not worthy!” Wayne: “OK OK—Garth—we’re in Madonna’s bedroom... Whoa!” BOTH: “We’re not worthy! We’re not worthy!” Madonna: “Shut-up—you’re both worthy.”
– Classic Saturday Night Live “Wayne’s World” Sketch
Does the following sound like the ongoing soundtrack in your head? “I’m not cool enough, so that hot girl won’t like me.” “I’m not good looking enough, so she won’t go out with me.” “I’m not rich enough, so I’m not worthy.”
If this is your attitude, then you’re probably miserable and alone on a Saturday night. You need to get over yourself! All that negative thinking is not getting you anywhere. So forget about it. It’s time to stop with the “poor me” and “I can’t” obstacles that are getting in the way of you getting your girl. Shut up already. You’re worthy! There are some widely believed myths out there that are just not true. So let’s lose them once and for all.
Everyone must be after the girl I like; therefore, I have no chance in hell.
Wrong. One of the reasons I wanted you to make a list is to realize that it’s pretty damn close to impossible that any two guys in the world are going to have the exact same Dream Girl. That’s because:
No one has the same ideal of a Hot Chick.
This is a good thing! Not everyone is after your perfect woman. Just you. She may be too short for that guy, or too curvy for him over there, or too smart, too funky, too serious, too blond, too wild, or too whatever for the next dude. However, if you like her, that’s all that matters. You’ve narrowed the playing field just by focusing in on who you really want. You’re already more advanced than most guys out there aimlessly gathering as many phone numbers as possible, without ever really getting anywhere near the woman who will actually make them happy. You are already head and shoulders above the competition, so get over the idea that you have no chance in hell. You do!
I’m not hot; therefore, I can’t score a Hot Chick.
Wrong again, Buddy. Let me fill you in on a little secret:
Hot Chicks like being the center of attention.
Pretty, savvy women like being the one that everyone in the room notices as she makes an entrance. Good-looking women are vain, insecure, and in need of approval. As long as they have the spotlight where they want it (on themselves), they’re happy. But, if the guy she’s with is the one that everyone in the room looks at with wanton eyes, she’s jealous. It’s true. I’m not lying. Most attractive women I know want to be the hot one in the couple. If people are staring at the guy, a woman wants it to be because they wish they had her, not because they wish to look like him.
As most of you know, I am happily married to a wonderful man. Now, don’t get me wrong. I find my husband very attractive. However, on first look, some might say he’s chubby, balding, hairy, and short.
Yes. He actually is all of those things. He also happens to be kind, generous, and smart.
He is a great joke teller.
He does yoga. He loves animals. He enjoys live music. He travels to fun places. He knows wine. He opens the door for me. He smells good. He puts up with my shit. He dresses impeccably. He’s a great problem solver. ... and he eats fantastic pussy.
All of which are on my Perfect Man list.
Therefore, my man is super-sexy to me. To tell you the truth, I’m glad he doesn’t look like Brad Pitt. Otherwise, I’d spend my whole life beating women off with a stick, and no one would ever pay attention to me. So get over the idea you can’t get a Hot Chick. It’s a lie. You can!
She must already be taken; therefore, I shouldn’t ask her out.
Here’s something that you must understand:
If she isn’t wearing a ring, she’s available.
Seriously. Does she have a big rock or a wedding band on her left hand? If she doesn’t have a ring, chances are she wants to be asked out. Also, more good news here: the hotter the chick, the less likely it is she has a date this
weekend. Why? Because she’s so dynamic and gorgeous she intimidates men. It takes balls to approach a beautiful, mysterious stranger and ask her to go eat food with you.
Now, most guys are doing the same thing you’ve been doing without success: assuming “everyone is after her” (Myth #1), thinking “she’s hot and I’m not” so she will say no (Myth #2), then deducing that “she’s unavailable” (Myth # 3). It takes a courageous man to walk up to a woman, make conversation, and ask for a date. FYI: We hot women find courage a turn-on!
The fact of the matter is Hot Chicks are not asked out enough because guys are scared and don’t realize that:
She is highly likely to say “yes.”
A woman will say “yes” for any number of reasons—all of which are good for you because they give you a shot with this girl. She will say “yes” to a date with you:
Because you smell good (learn more in Step 2).
Because you dress well (learn more in Step 3).
Because she thinks you’re kinda cute.
Because you’re the complete opposite of her last boyfriend.
Because she doesn’t want to be alone this Saturday either.
Because it’s been a long time since she’s gotten laid and she’s horny.
Because she is looking for her perfect man too... and you just might be him.
Who cares why? At least you’ve got her where you want her—with you. The rest will come with a little help from this book.
Even if she’s not available, an attractive woman will be thrilled that you asked her out on a date. She won’t think you’re a loser for asking even
if she says “no.” Believe me. I’ve been there and all my hot girlfriends agree. Not only will she be flattered, she will probably regret having to turn you down because she’s in a so-so relationship and you may be her last hope of somebody better than the loser boyfriend she’s been shacking up with. Even if she says “no” to a date with you because she is currently seeing someone, you never know what the future may hold. Some day she may be free from her current relationship and know that you’re interested because you had the courage to ask. For example, this happened to me...
An oddly attractive kid approached me at a café in my neighborhood. I call him “kid” because he was a few years my junior. He was a tall, scrawny, grad student/guitar player who was too cool for school. Let’s call him Alex. I was nice to him but not overly flirtatious as I was seeing someone at that time. After a few gallant attempts of making small talk, Alex asked me if I’d like to go out sometime. I told him thanks but I couldn’t because I was in a relationship. He was a little embarrassed, but sweetly so, and we basically said, “See ya around.” There were no hard feelings when we bumped into each other over the next few months at local spots as we went about our separate lives.
Cut to five months later. I am sitting alone at my favorite dive bar nursing a pint while lamenting the mistakes of my final—no really final—breakup with my on-again, off-again boyfriend, when lo and behold Alex bellies up. We got to chatting; he bought the next round and asked about “the boyfriend.” When I tell him we are no longer together, he smiles and pops the question again: “So you wanna go out sometime? My buddy just opened up a new restaurant.” I said “yes,” we agreed on a date, and he got my number; we went to his friend’s funky vegan hole-in-the-wall joint and had a great time. We ended up seeing each other for a few very fun months of raunchy sex, organic pasta, and me being groupie to his kick-ass hipster rock band. While it was not my end-all be-all relationship, Alex went off to India to find himself (I already knew who I was), and it was a positive experience because he was patient and persistent in asking me out and we had some good times. So, get over the idea she’s taken because she probably isn’t or won’t always be.
She’s too good for me; therefore, I don’t deserve her.
This is the silliest thing I’ve ever heard. Why would you sabotage your desire to be with an amazing woman with: “She’s too whatever for me.” For example:
“She’s too pretty to go out with me.” “She’s too stylish to like me.” “She’s too sophisticated for me.”
“She’s too smart to be into me.” “She’s too sexy to be attracted to me.” I mean, how can a woman be too anything good?
What you really mean is that you don’t think you are worthy of the woman you are attracted to. Believing this myth is simply counteractive to your goal. It makes no logical sense that you don’t deserve what you desire. It is your inalienable right to pursue life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness with your Dream Girl. Buck up, man, and get over it, or you will never be worthy. We hot women can smell pathetic self-doubt from a mile away. You can’t hide it with a boatload of Paco Rabanne. Unworthiness is simply a turn-off. If you believe you are not good enough, we will not want to talk to you, go out with you, or have sex with you.
I’m a great guy and deserve a great woman. This should be the mantra in your head at all times when you are trying to attract a woman. Now, I’m not saying all you have to do is believe in yourself and visualize your Dream Girl and the law of attraction will magically make your über-babe appear. I’m simply saying that believing that you are deserving of happiness with a wonderful woman is a good place to start. We’ve all done stupid shit in our lives that we regret or we have something about ourselves that we wish we
could change. Nevertheless, you need to forgive yourself and like who you are before you can get anyone else to like you back.
I’m a great guy and I deserve a great woman.
Say it out loud in the mirror ten times before you leave the house every day, before you go to sleep at night, and before you ask that cute hostess from the sushi place out on a date with you. I know. You’re probably thinking, “This is ridiculous.” It’s not! The positive message you give yourself will help get rid of any negative vibe and give you the air of confidence that a girl like me and my Hot Chick friends would actually want to go out with. Come on. What harm can it do? After all, a guy should do anything that’ll help get him laid.
Just so you know, all the women out there that you want to be dating are going through the same thing you are. They’re getting up every morning to a cruel and competitive world, putting on a game face, and overcoming all their own issues. Even the hottest of women have their own “mishegoss” to overcome like shyness, a recent breakup, or fear of not being pretty, thin, young, smart, sexy, stylish or whatever-enough for a great guy like you. Yes, even the seemingly perfect, put-together women have worthiness issues. We’re just as full of shit as you are. So get over the idea she’s too good for you. You deserve her. You deserve each other.
I don’t have money; therefore, she won’t go out with me.
It’s true: we are living in a material world and I am a Material Girl. I cannot argue with the fact that almost all of the hot women I know, myself included, expect the man to pick up the check on a date. If you want to split the tab, she will most likely split on you. To date any woman, let alone a “ten,” you need enough money in your pocket to pay the waiter. However, you don’t need to be Sugar Daddy Warbucks to score a hot babe. As long as you can take care of yourself, pay your rent, not borrow money from us, have enough cash to spend on simple things like dinner and a movie, and have some extra dough to occasionally drop on small, thoughtful gifts like music, flowers, or perfume, you are indeed dating material.
If you are borderline broke, you will need to make up for your lack of cash in other ways. It can be done. In fact, there is a category of men that my girlfriends and I have dubbed Sexy Poor. These attractive, starving artist types include poets, musicians, eco-activists, yoga masters, or other “less- is-more” kind of alternative lifestyle poor. If this is the case, you must acknowledge us as your muse by painting our portrait, writing songs about us, drawing our bath, and giving us frequent foot massages. You must also be generous in bed and generally worship the ground we walk on. Otherwise, we won’t put up with the fact that you have a roommate when you’re thirty and/or sleep on a mattress on the floor. Whether you are a future business mogul in the making who is still delivering pizza or a laid-off insurance executive making ends meet by selling appliances at Best Buy, the good news is it’s easier than ever before to pull off Sexy Poor. You used to have to drive a cool car to pick up a Hot Chick. Now you can tell her you ride a bike “for the environment.”
Regardless of your profession, you can be struggling financially and still be attractive to a woman as long as you have passion and potential. This means you must be talented in your field of choice and be working your ass off to be successful. Lazy and poor do not mix. You might not land a lady that likes to go to trendy restaurants, expects gifts of designer handbags, and dreams of a five-carat diamond engagement ring by being a talented, ambitious, yet struggling... novelist. However, that kind of woman is too crude and shallow to be your Dream Girl anyway. Even with a limited bank account, if you follow the instructions I give you in the chapters to come, plenty of hot women will find you attractive. You may not score any gold diggers, mind you, but that’s a good thing. So get over the idea you need big bucks to score a Hot Chick. You don’t!
Bottom Line: You don’t have to be George Clooney to score a “ten.”
Kira Reed is an actress, television host, sex symbol, writer, and producer. After graduating UCLA’s School of Theatre Film and Television, she enjoyed a prolific on-camera career including a seven–year stint as a reporter for Playboy TV’s Sexcetera. Kira was the writer and supervising producer of the travel reality series 69 Sexy Things 2 Do Before You Die and is currently the spokesperson for MyMedicalRecords.com. She lives in Los Angeles with her husband Bob Lorsch and their menagerie of rescue animals. See more of Kira @ KiraReed.com.
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