Breaking up with someone at any age is really hard, especially if it's a long term marriage or relationship. There is just no easy way to do it or overcome the pain from it except with time.
I'm sure you have heard and experienced that song from time to time,
but breaking up with someone isn't easy. Lately, I've seen a few friends all in long term marriages break up and it's the most devastating if kids are involved. Since we baby boomers are living longer, chances are we have been through a few relationships or marriages and it's never easy no matter the circumstances. I have had my share of painful breakups in my life, my first marriage, as well as, a couple of engagements. It's always disappointing when you think your life is going in one direction and suddenly it shifts gear into another.
So how do your get through such a painful transition? How do you pick of the pieces and move on after being with someone for so long? The best advice is to take the time to heal. Don't rush into another relationship too quickly afterwards. Take time for yourself, cry and get all the emotions out. Then pick yourself up and know that you are worthy of real love. There is someone for everyone out there. I truly believe this. After my last painful breakup I thought I'd never love again and was single for nearly six years before I found love with my husband and I was in my 40s! So it's never too late!
I hung out with my girlfriends, watched funny movies, read lots of books, got very creative with the things I was most interested in and didn't put so much energy and attention on him. That's the number one thing not to do is make it all about him. Don't throw away your precious time and energy on trying to fix him. Worry about yourself and what is best for you! That may sound selfish, but this is a time to be selfish and not think about another person. This is how you will heal.
The biggest thing I learned about breakups is that forgiveness is the key to your salvation and peace of mind. As hard as it may seem, forgive the other person for any transgressions and move on. It's never any one thing that leads to a break up, but usually a series of things and sometimes it just isn't meant to be. It takes two people to want to be in a relationship and put their time and energy into it. If it doesn't work, maybe it's the universe's way of saying something else out there is better for you!
So keep moving forward, don't look back and wonder why, if or ponder too much on what happened. Look to the future and wonder what's in store for you next!