Chances are you understand that you’re not going to find your Dream Girl while sitting on the couch, eating Doritos and surfing the net for porn. If you want to find your perfect woman, you must leave the house and make yourself available. Don’t go to the sports bar because there are too many dudes. Don’t visit the titty-bars because “Desiree” is only saying you’re cute because you’re paying for lap dances and her bottomless Jack and Diet Cokes. What you do need to do is go to where the available girls are.

You may know who you’re after. If so, be like grandpa and simply go where she goes. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not encouraging you to be a stalker. But if you notice the hot chick from the PR department likes to make Starbucks runs at 11am, maybe you should pick up a latte’ habit. If you don’t have a girl in mind you need to find one – and then stalk her – just kidding. No seriously. Don’t be a psycho freak.

Here are my favorite places for meeting the ladies:

Dance, Pilates or Yoga Classes

Group fitness classes are great for meeting women. You’ll not only work muscles you didn’t even know you had, but also be in heaven for an hour in the midst of hot, barely-dressed, sweat-glistening girls. If you’ve never been to a workout class, don’t be afraid of looking silly. The ladies will think you’re brave for trying something new. Just don’t overdo it and hurt yourself. Let’s face it, where else can you go where men are out- numbered by lean, strong, flexible women 10 to 1. If you’re hitting the gym classes to meet girls be sure to go after work hours. Lunchtime classes are for housewives. Nighttime is the right time for meeting available women. Also, any dance class that requires a partner, like swing or tango, is a sure bet. Just show up and they’ll match you with another single. Just don’t get stuck with the 70-year- old, 200-pound grandma. Be sure to bee-line to the cute wallflower flying solo and tell her that “nobody puts Baby in a corner.” You’ll be her instant dreamboat. Even if you don’t meet your Cinderella at the ballroom class, you’ll learn a great skill for future weddings, parties, etc. Which brings us to…

Weddings, Parties, Etc.

Don’t worry if you’re invited to a wedding and you don’t have a date. Weddings are a great place to meet girls. Everyone’s celebrating love, drinking and dancing the night away. They’re a fantastic breeding ground for romance. Or, at least a drunken fling in the coat check room. Weddings and other parties are wonderful because you already have something in common with all the female guests - you have a mutual friend who invited you. “So, how do you know the host (or the bride or groom)” is a perfect conversation starter. It’s totally okay to arrive at any party alone.

I know it’s hard sometimes to make a solo entrance, but remember - no one is staring at you and judging you for being by yourself. They’re all too busy worrying about what you are thinking about them.

This is what is going through a woman’s brain when you walk into a party:

“How’s my hair?“

“Do I look fat in this dress?”

“Will anyone ask me to dance?”

“Did I feed the cat?”

“Where’s the guy with the little shrimp ball thingies?”

(You enter)

“Oooh! Is he single?”

“He’s kinda cute.”

“Oh my god. I do I look fat in this dress. I shouldn’t have had so many shrimp thingies. Diet starts now… Well, after the left-over birthday cake is gone.”

“ Is he looking at me?”

“I hope he comes over and says hello.”

Beautiful, single women love to see an unattached guy like you walk into the room because YOU are what they are ALL after: A put together, available man. Just remember, you’re a great catch. You’re clean, you dress well, you’re healthy and she’s lucky to have you. You’re like filet mignon to a pack of hungry dogs. You’ll have to fight those bitches off!

Language or Cooking Classes

It’s true: women are turned on by men who wear aprons and can make more than toast and Ramen noodles. These types of interactive classes throw you in a room full of women who have come together in the name of self-improvement. It’s an ideal place to meet a woman who is obviously single because she has time for such activities. Not only do you get to meet women and spend time with them, they also give you a perfect excuse to ask her over to your place to practice your new recipes or quiz each other on Spanish vocabulary words. Find classes in your area online. Some savvy places may even offer singles nights. Even if you don’t meet your perfect girl in class you can learn the skills to impress future babes with your mastery of homemade pesto or your ability to roll a Romance language off your tongue.

The Grocery Store Health Aisle

Everyone says the grocery store is a great place to meet women. But you can’t just push your cart around hoping to run into your future wife. You need a plan, so I’m going to give you one. You need at least an hour. You need to go to “Whole Foods” or the closest health related market nearest you; go to the vitamin aisle. and look at the food supplements. I’m talking vitamins, herbs, essential fatty acids. All that stuff gives you a reason to hang out to study ingredients… and scope for hot chicks. This is where the women that care about their bodies go. This is the hot chick section the super-market. Do not hang around browsing the digestive dysfunction remedies because it is so not sexy. Look at something general, like a B-complex, or time-release vitamin C capsule. Read the labels until a really hot, fit woman comes along. Then, ask her if she’s tried it and what she thinks. It may seem horrifying to actually look a sexy, in-shape woman in her eye and speak. However, it is a legitimate conversation starter.

Art Galleries and Museums

It’s a no-brainer. At an art gallery or museum you already have something to talk about: the art piece in front of you. Who cares if you’re not into French impressionism and you don’t know why a can of Campbell’s soup could be worth a zillion dollars. If hot chicks dig looking at overpriced wall decorations, then so should you. Have fun with it. Let your inner left bank artiste out to play. Just be sure to do a little research on the exhibit you’re planning to attend. You don’t want to attribute “Starry Night”  to Van Halen.

Eating Alone at a Restaurant

Eating at the bar and an upscale restaurant is a great way to meet women. Just show up, in your sport coat and situate yourself next to the pretty single lady eating alone. If she has a magazine and turns your back to you, she’s not interested. If you’re in a hotel bar and she’s wearing a mini skirt and lets you know she isn’t wearing any panties - she’s probably a hooker. If she’s looking around, making eye contact with you and actually consuming food not just martini olives, she is hoping you’ll buy her a drink, talk to her and ask her out. No really. She’s there because she wants to meet the man of her dreams. That man could be you.

Building Supply and Hardware Stores

Many women, including me, don’t know the difference between a nut and a bolt let alone a Makita and a monkey wrench. If you want a find a girl to nail, it may be of use to talk caulk. Most women wander around hardware stores with very little idea of what they are doing. If she looks like she's trying to figure out which contraption to buy, it’s totally fine to approach her and offer a suggestion. If she seems open to it, ask her if she needs help with anything else. Ask her what she is she trying to build or fix? Then guide her to anything else she may need. It’s the perfect opportunity to show off your manliness and rescue a damsel in distress. You can also give her your number and offer your handyman services just in case she has any trouble screwing in her bulb, nailing her rack to the wall or snaking her drain.

Shopping In a Department Store

Warning: do not try this unless you are very charming. This approach takes a lot of balls. Pretend you're shopping for your sister or some other imaginary non-threatening woman, like your executive assistant, or something. Ask an attractive female shopper, who is browsing near you, for her opinion on what you should buy as a gift. Give her a choice, like: “If this were a present for you, would you go for the sweater or the blouse?”  Don’t be shopping in the lingerie section. She’ll immediately peg you as a creep-a-zoid. Go basic, like the accessories section. “What do you think would make a better gift? The tote bag or the clutch?”  Most women enjoy giving advice. She will get the idea that you are a caring guy that likes to buy thoughtful gifts for the ladies in your life. Don't push your luck by asking her to try it on or model it for you unless you really get an open vibe and you are 100% willing to buy one for her if she likes it.

Yoga Retreat or Away From Home Workshop

We already know yoga classes are great places to meet hot women. You can take it up a notch by making it a sleepover. Yoga retreats and other self-help spiritual or health seminars are packed with single women looking to find meaning in their lives. When women are away from the constraints of social norms, like a seaside, south of the border eco-retreat, with you being the only single guy in the vicinity who speaks English, anything can happen. After a full day of downward dogs, scantily clad dips in the ocean and sunset meditation walks along la playa,  the nights will give way to bonfire fiestas and tequila tasting. You may think energy aligning with crystals is a bunch of hooey, however, if you can help un-clog a women’s root chakra beneath a mosquito net in Mexico, it may be worth the trip.

Online

I know there’s still a lingering stigma to online dating. But, I’ve done it with success. I’m not saying get your credit card out and join a generic dating website. There are too many weeds to sort through and those sites that pair you according to some dumb quiz you take are pretty useless if you ask me. When it comes to matters of the heart, there are no standardized tests. I also don’t recommend spending thousands of dollars on an overpriced “matchmaker” that is just going to throw a bunch of girls at you and hope that one sticks. Instead, know the kind of girl you want and go on a website that caters to that woman. If you know what kind of girl you want, there is a website out there to find her.

Search dating + something you like.

For example: If a woman who “loves to be spoiled”  is one of the qualities of your perfect girl, try typing “dating + loves to be spoiled.”  You will probably be directed to someplace like MillionaireMatches.com.

Need a nice Jewish girl to take home to mom? Then search “dating + Jewish,”  and you’ll probably end up at some semblance of JDate.com.

Have kids and want someone who does too? Try “women dating + single parent,”  and you’ll probably land on the Parents Without Partners parentswithoutpartners.org home page.

Like to be tied up and spanked, or tying up and doing the spanking? Then, type in “dating + BDSM,”  and you’ll be smack dab at the homepage of alt.com an alternative lifestyles dating site.

Get as specific as you can. “Dating +Spoiled + Jewish + Single Parent + BDSM +,”  probably leads to a site to meet just that kind of girl. God bless the Internet!

Even if you think online dating is not for you, I urge you to do a little browsing anyway. Seeing for yourself how many women are out there looking for a mate is encouraging. Who knows, you might just come across a profile of that former co-worker that you had a crush on that you never asked out, or reconnect with the-one-who-got-away high school sweetheart who is now divorced and available for you. Then all you have to do is: Ask Her Out.

...Learn how to Ask Her Out in my book SCORE! How to Win the Girl of Your Dreams http://www.ScoreTheBook.com.

XOXOKira